With all of the hate going around for 50 Shades of Grey, I have been wondering why? BDSM has been a fetish forever and like it says in the book it is really a trusting relationship. The submissive has to have major trust in their Dom in order for them to carry out the act and stop when told to.
BDSM is not rape if two consenting adults agree to that type of relationship. I know it may be hard for some to believe, but their are women AND men alike that enjoy the role of sub. The few blog posts and articles I have read and are against the movie and books, haven’t read the books and probably do not know a lot about the sexual fetish.
Anastasia may be young and naive, but entered into the relationship fully consenting. There was a contract laid out, details were agreed upon or taken out. She was able to walk away from the deal at anytime. There even were a couple of times where she did walk, but went back to him. Yes, he may have gone a bit overboard with stalking her at work or buying up her place of business, but I think that was more out of wanting to make sure she was in a safe working environment.
If two sober, consenting adults agree to a BDSM relationship, why are people flipping out about it? Why now? A couple of years ago a movie called “Secretary” came out and just the preview looks a lot more on the harder side of BDSM, but I don’t remember this much upset when it came out. Anne Rice’s book trilogy “Sleeping Beauty” is by far worse than “50 Shades of Grey” and ironically does involve rape….lots of rape.
Everybody has a fetish, whether they are willing to admit it or not. Why put one down just because it isn’t your thing? I don’t go around hating on those with a foot fetish, just because I don’t understand it and I hate feet.
Plus the books (and assuming movie) are not all about sex. Christian is obviously struggling with his childhood and searching for something to heal his spiritual wounds. Up until he meets Ana, BDSM was that outlet, but then she called to him in ways those in the past never had. He was able to open up more and allow himself to get over his past and move on because of her. The BDSM stuff is just what helped bring them to that level.