Discipline or Abuse?

A little while ago a TV show aired a miniseries about a man slapping a child. (Little clear up, I watched the Australian version.) Each episode gives a different point of view from those that were around at the time of the incident. The first episode sets the scene, it is Hector’s 40th birthday and his wife is throwing him a party with friends and family. Hector is having his own issues leading up to the infamous slap, and before he can have a nervous breakdown his cousin slaps a child that isn’t his.

This child in question is about four or five years old, single child and spoiled. His parents allow him to get away with anything and they display that through out the show. He is first in trouble for biting another child, then he breaks a video game controller. Hugo, the child, is then caught messing with CDs  and vinyl records, coating them in chocolate and chips as well as scratching them. The last incident before the slap is him being yelled at by his parents for repeatedly pulling up flowers from the roots. The mother’s response is to pick him up and breast feed him in front of the other children and Hector, who comes to sort out the arguing. The children went outside to play cricket, and the child has the bat/paddle thing. Playing by the rules, he was out and didn’t want to give up the bat. He starts swinging it around aiming for the surrounding kids, and that is when the cousin stepped in, took the bat and smacked him across the face.

His father is an argumentative sort, who finds problems with everyone and all of their choices. Obviously he really flies off the handle when his child is hit, especially when it was by a man he had been having a heated argument just seconds before.

First off I do not have children, but helped raise three sisters and grew up surrounded by little cousins as the oldest in the group. Secondly, I do not support child abuse, but I do believe in spankings. I want that clear.

I can understand where the cousin was coming from. Someone should have taken the child to task before it got that out of hand. Hugo was attacking his child and the other children with a bat, had no one stepped in someone was going to get hurt. Then the kid would have hurt someone and gotten away with it.

While I feel that action needed to taken, the approach was wrong. Children need discipline and to be taught right from wrong. Sitting in a chair and yelling at a child who obviously never listens, is not going to work. Babying him when he is so clearly in the wrong is detrimental to his social development. He is going to grow up feeling entitled and used to everyone giving him whatever he wants on a silver platter.

It drives me insane when children are not taught any manners, but to go around doing things they are not supposed to be doing is worse. It also shows the other children rebellion. If that kid doesn’t have to listen to his parents why do I? With unruly children, people wonder why the world is going psycho.

Reprimanding a child for wrong doing is completely fine, but slapping the child was wrong for different reasons. One you don’t slap a child, they need a spanking, time out or some sort of action that makes them realize they are doing wrong. Secondly it was not the cousins place to do it. The parents should have stepped in and done something. And I don’t mean breastfeeding, the kid was too old for that anyway, or separating him from the other children with the promise of explaining why he was wrong later. Discipline should be done in the moment so the child fully understands what he did wrong.

Am I wrong in thinking this? It seems like parents no longer care about their children or how they turn out. Then when the kids are all grown up, everyone expects them to act right, but how can they when they were never taught how? At the very least, if I did half the crap that kid did, I would have gotten a stern talking to and put in time out. That’s the least, at most I would have been spanked, told to say sorry and put in my room or some room alone to think about my actions.

I know I’m not the best example, but seriously people need to take control of their kids or not get upset when others do it for them.

Selfish Promoting on my Birthday!

I am going to be a little selfish for a few minutes….Today is my birthday! Why don’t you go and checkout one of my books? http://www.amazon.com/Courtney-Wend…/…/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1

Birthday Weirdness

My birthday is December 23. I (and am sure many others) find it interesting to see who else I share a birthday with. It is kind of cool to know that someone famous was born the same day as you. So I was goofing around and looked it yesterday, and found some cool people, like Alexander I Tsar of Russia. I find that awesome, because I was always a little fascinated with the story of their family.

With the good, also comes the bad. It’s going to happen, but it puts a damper on your birthday if you know you share(d) the day with a notorious serial killer. For instance, I share my birthday with Kurt Meyer aka Panzermeyer. He was an officer in the Waffen-SS. A bad dude to share a birthday with, it could have been worse but still bad.

Then I also noticed a pattern, I could just be crazy and it is a coincidence, but there were also a lot of writers throughout the years born on December 23. I also looked up my cousin’s birthday, to see if a pattern could be fashioned, and he is no musician or politician but there were tons of both on that day (August 29). That is where the pattern fell apart, but I think that if he took better care of himself he could be a good politician.

If our birthday were to depict the type of profession we enter, than I could be a writer or a murderer (among other things). What would you be?

You be Beethoven and  I’ll be Bach,

Courtney M. Wendleton